It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

Honoring Your Grief During the Holidays

The holidays are often portrayed as the most wonderful time of the year, but for many, they’re also the hardest. If you’re grieving, it’s okay to not feel festive, joyful, or even okay. The first step toward healing is acknowledging your feelings and giving yourself permission to experience them fully.

Acknowledging Your Emotions

Grief doesn’t come with a rulebook. You might feel sadness, anger, loneliness, or even guilt. The holidays often magnify these emotions because of the emphasis on family, traditions, and celebration. Ignoring these feelings or trying to “stay strong” can be exhausting and counterproductive. Remember, your feelings are valid. You don’t need to force happiness if it’s not genuine.

Practical Ways to Honor Your Emotions

1. Create Space for Grief: Set aside time to process your feelings. Journaling, praying, or even sitting quietly can help you acknowledge your emotions.

2. Talk to Someone You Trust: Sharing your thoughts with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can lighten the emotional burden.

3. Seek God’s Presence: Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” Take comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Spend time in prayer or read scripture to find peace.

Actionable Tip:

Consider writing a letter to your loved one, expressing how much they mean to you and how you’re navigating the holidays without them. It can be a cathartic way to process your feelings.